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Wow! What a crazy couple of years it’s been for everyone in so many different ways but the obvious being COVID wiping out the world and pushing all of our mental health to the absolute brink. People already suffering with their mental health have been tested in ways they never thought possible and others that never had even considered they’d suffer from anxiety or depression are now experiencing it firsthand as the tolls of COVID start to show. The constant worry, the separation from loved ones, long stints of isolation and the list goes on.. never ever would I have imagined that this is what the last couple of years would have looked like.

I’ve hit rock bottom many times in my life and this will sound outrageous to many but I look forward to it finally happening. The dark spiral downwards is scary and you don’t think it will ever end but when it does and you know you can’t go any deeper, there’s only one way you can go and that’s up!

Have you ever told a little white lie when talking to someone about motherhood for the fear of being judged? Agreed with their point of view in case they shamed you for thinking the opposite? We’ve all been there!

Have you ever let someone down? It might have been someone you cared for deeply or as little as being a no show to an appointment. Letting someone down on purpose is generally not something people aim to do and a lot of the time the outcome has been caused by factors out of a person’s control.

Root, fuck, bang, make love, shag or screw… whatever you want to call the act of sex, it’s a subject that is hot gossip whether you are single or in a relationship. How much are you getting? Is it mind blowing or does it feel like a chore to just keep the other half happy? Or has it been years since you got a bit, even in a long term relationship?

Over the past week I’ve felt like a spectator as I watched my mental health once again slowly deteriorate. I reacted to things that were out of my control with anger and frustration as well as doubted and judged myself for everything I said and did. I started to distance myself from loved ones by not replying to messages and spending any spare time isolated and away from the noise.

I received a distressing message from a close friend just recently and it really got under my skin. My friend, a first time mum with her second on the way was having a few doubts about a particular situation and reached out to a social media group for mums that she was part of in hope someone else had experienced the same feelings to put her mind at ease or even share some wisdom on the topic to overcome it.

I never imagined I’d be sharing the responsibility of raising my boys with another woman, why would I, being married to a man? But after spending the initial years of motherhood doing it all by myself, having the help of another woman has been a blessing.

A mum should never be made to feel guilty for needing time out to escape the hectic daily life of motherhood. It is a known fact that a mum that is able to have time out to fill her cup whilst also having her needs met at home will be an overall happier, more patient, loving mother and partner.

In the thick of the COVID 19 pandemic in the year 2020, mums all around the globe were doing whatever it took to get through the day with their sanity intact due to being isolated at home with their families, twenty four seven.